April 24, 2008
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When I read others’ blogs, I find that with a particular few (those younger), their entries are filled with drama. Now, what I am wondering is where my drama went running off to?
I recall being a freshman in college (somewhat through a haze of parties and baggy-jeans fashions) and having mini-dramas around me. The psychology major I had a crush on who was dating some girl named Mary. He wanted to be a CIA or FBI person so he’d be home less. He figured that way, he’d always be happy to see his wife. He was older, and I just barely remember what he looked like. I think he was from Bismarck? Anyhow, there was a good month at the beginning of that year where I only thought about him, about how to run into him on campus (Psychology Club! where I met a gal named Cybil). At the same time, I was still trying to get over my high school boyfriend who dumped me the summer after we graduated. I’m certain he was cheating on me with his future wife because it wasn’t long after that he was heading to boot camp, to be a Marine, and then he married her. All of this was going on just as I was getting into the “college party scene” with my best friend who was attending MSU (now MSUM). I started having a crush on her brother too. Within that freshman year, I went from one drama to another to finally “settling” down a bit by dating her brother when she left to nanny in NYC. And, MAN, I met oodles of people that year. I even had my own little group of guyfriends for awhile in the middle of the year. I wasn’t uber attracted to any of them, but we’d watch football on Sundays in someone’s dorm, they’d bitch about girls, and they’d often help me redesign my dorm room at good ol’ Burgum Hall. I think I had like seven jobs in that first year too. Sheesh.
Then, once I found one dude, the drama focused around him. And then changing my major from Architecture to English Ed. He didn’t think my writing was mature; I thought he knew everything (whoops). I blazed through some classes (Educational Psychology, Creative Writing, etc…) while others (British Lit, Shakespeare, etc.) I could barely stay awake in much less care about.
I guess, what I am trying to get at with this trip down memory lane, is why the drama is so concentrated on those late teen/early 20-something years? The major dramas I have these days deal with my running frustrations or what to get people for their bridal showers/bachelorette parties. Do we slowly just deal with everything easier? Is there really less drama in my life?
I suppose all of this is also why it’s hard for me to “buy” students’ excuses. I remember all the crap going on in my life in college, but I still went to class and got my homework done. And if I didn’t, I didn’t cop an attitude with the teacher and expect to hand in anything late. Everyone’s got crazy stuff going on in their lives. Everyone.
