June 22, 2008
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Just found a blog entry that intrigued me… In reference to: “Men prefer being solo over a bad marriage” the blogger wrote: “Being an avid reader of relationship related articles and books, I actually have a very different view on this than the author of this article has.
The author of this article says it’s because ‘Men are 10 times more scared of marrying the wrong person than of never getting married at all’.
The true reason? These men can’t compromise if their lives depended on it.
There is NO SUCH THING as ‘perfection’. There are only those that you love enough that you are willing to make a compromise with as long as it doesn’t destroy who you are.
For those of you that have a sibling that you get along with really well, or a best or really good friend: Are these people ‘perfection’? Do you sometimes still fight? Do you always agree with all their opinions or everything they say? Do you have to sometimes make compromises because you know he/she doesn’t like doing this this and this, but you’ll go do this this and this with them because you enjoy their company or you know you’ll get to do what you want next time?
Of course we all do. Our best relationships, romantic or otherwise are based on how well we can resolve our differences, compromise and also make up after fights and disagreements.
Sure, these men are ‘scared’ of divorce, but more scary to them is the thought that they can’t always get their way.
Now that is something they are truly scared of.”
I concur.
