September 19, 2008
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I have the same exact arguments with particular people over and over again. A quarter of the way through them, I start frowning. I start strateger-izing as Wade calls it. Only I strateger-ize differently each time, hoping to “win” the argument once and for all. It never works. Verbally, I lack resources and patience and I typically just sigh a lot. Maybe I need a Snickers?
On paper, I can argue my case much better, usually. When it comes to arguments of the heart (say, an argument between my signifcant other and I or a family member and myself or an argument that actually argues where the heart is or who has a heart), the wording gets trickier. I mean, I can argue why I’m pro-choice better than why a certain someone is technically giving me a guilt trip, for pete’s sake! I’m sure there’s a reason for this madness; I’m sure that arguments are a part of life (heck, my English 120 book says so: everything’s an argument, so there!), but I wish they could be won like baseball games. Extra innings or not.
I’d announce them on the evening news: “Sybil is behind Jan by 2 1/2 arguments but there are 10 more arguments to go this season. Maybe she’ll make a comeback?”
Comments (4)
heheh! i am a fantastic verbal arguer. my problem is that i never stop soon enough, and if my husband lets me babble on long enough, i will inevitably prove his point.
But it is kind of silly. In most cases I find that people argue not to have a genuine discussion of issues but to affirm that they were right all along.
@PhilippiansThree14 - I think I’m the opposite. I give up before I should, most of the time.
@moritheil - I’d have to say that yea, I do argue to try to reaffirm to others that I am right (or as intelligent as they are), but most of the time, I just want others to see where I am coming from. I’m pretty good at putting myself in others’ shoes; that method isn’t reciprocated with my arguers.
To my own way of thinking everything you verbalize looks like correct
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