September 28, 2008
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And then it came to me… For every piece of advice out there, there’s another one to contradict it.
There’s a massive sector of people who state firmly that – We can’t change people – yet we can change ourselves, so… if we have the power to change our actions, why wouldn’t we have the power to influence others to change?This post could be UBER LONG because, really, there are many pieces of advice floating around out there. “There are many fish in the sea,” well, with global warming, probably not AND if you take it figuratively, if you live in a rural area, there aren’t quality fish/men/women to date, so…
“Don’t burn bridges” or “What comes around goes around” ??? Someone gets fired from a certain place and they are told to be nice for the rest of their employment there; however, maybe that company has something coming to them?
Lately, I’ve been told not to hold a grudge against people… and yet
it was even her holiness, Oprah, who said “When people show you who
they are, believe them.” So… in that case, when they’ve shown me that
they are incapable of apologizing or opening their mind to let in one
of my ideas, I think it’s okay to hold a grudge.I so totally have a point, and yet, there is someone in the blogosphere who will contradict me. DANG IT. And then I’ll be told “Don’t take it personally” what the ??
Comments (6)
“But am I not the person who received it?” you might ask.
@darkoozeripple - Right. I think. We had a presenter at the beginning of the school year who said something about how no one can MAKE you feel a certain way… I frowned. If I wanted to MAKE someone pissed off at me, I could. Sure, they could not listen and walk away, but his comment was a bit incorrect/backwards.
If I aim a mean comment at someone, he/she SHOULD and WILL take that personally. In my student evaluations (I’m actually getting better about not letting the stupid/mean comments bug me), I get comments that are meant FOR ME, so why shouldn’t I take those personally. I detest that tidbit of advice, needless to say.
I get the “don’t take it personally” a lot. If the topic concerns us, then we will take it personally. It seems like a cop-out that you put out there to seperate yourself from whatever consequence your words might have. I hear students say some of the most awful things to each other and then follow up with “just kidding”.
It might not be advice, but I like “I’ll do me and you do you” (not sure exactly how it goes).
@heyitzlong - What would you use that in response to? I’ve heard it but can’t think of when it would be used or, yeah, if it’s considered advice…
@teacher47 - Perhaps another way of saying “we agree to disagree”, but for things beyond arguments and debates. For me, it implies that we should just all get along: I’m not going to force my judgement on you and neither should you, on me.
@heyitzlong - Nice. I completely agree with you; no need to respectfully disagree with those thoughts!