May 31, 2008
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So, I saw the movie on Thursday night (Sex and the City, of course); my gal pals and I got lucky with the drawing of some numbers at the pre-party. Yay for us.
I was emotionally drained after the movie for various reasons. Anyhow, I’m not going to ‘give away’ anything about the movie. I simply want to mention one theme that the movie had: FORGIVENESS. I have a hard time with forgiveness. In fact, I’d say it’s a weak point of mine. A major weak point. I hold grudges. Typically, these grudges don’t occur with those who I have unconditional love for (family), but has been geared more at people outside that sphere. I used to think I could never not forgive people. My parents. Best friends. Boyfriends. But, in some cases, I still have not fully forgiven people for what they have ‘done’ to me. And the movie showed me one aspect – that I may have set up myself for the problems that lead to a massive explosion and hence the ability to not forgive. Is it my fault someone did/said X to me, no. But I may have lead them there with my decisions, so it’s not all happening in a vacuum, as some would say. Life doesn’t happen to us; we are reacting constantly (and composing situations, etc, I would argue as well). One could call it the domino effect too.
A very basic example is a relationship… where one is not completing being herself with her mate. They barely fight because she doesn’t ‘stir things up.’ She doesn’t want to cause a rumble; sometimes she feels as if arguing with him will push him away or show her age because she is younger, etc. Anyhow, along comes another woman. This person wants to make her way into the bf’s life. The girl has been a pushover for most, if not all, of the relationship. And now, she sees it crumble before her. The boyfriend sees the ex as a stronger person, not a pushover in fact. So, the breakup occurs and the gf blames the bf for everything. Part of her is amazed he is able to ‘walk away.’ But looking back, it’s easy to see where the dominos pushed this into a possible happening.
Like Andy Warhol stated once (or so I’ve heard), “They say time changes things, but you actually have to change them yourself.” I haven’t thought a lot about those who I need to forgive, those who have really hurt me in the past. And time isn’t going to do that for me. Some have deserved my anger, but how long do I have to hold onto that? [I have forgotten much... but have I forgiven in the process?]
Beyond that analysis, I’d have to say the Forum’s article (by an NY critic?) about the movie was way off base. Then again, I find myself loving movies that critics don’t like. Sure, there were certain scenes that didn’t transition beautifully in my mind… conversations that could’ve been more ‘real,’ but as a HUGE FAN, I adored the flick. I’m just grateful the girls came back into their fans’ lives with more to say. More to think about. More to remember as history to not repeat. And more fashion to drool over. I’ll be seeing it again for sure. And, god-willing, a DVD of the movie will enter my collection by Christmas.
